(June 21, 2015)
There is a very human trait to attack when losing an argument. It is easy enough to look at others and see this behavior, but it exists in me as well as those I disagree with. When I find myself angry at others, it seems most often because I am losing the argument.
The trick, of course, is that often I lose the argument because I am arguing on the wrong subject entirely. I will think that I am arguing a self-justifying position, and I will be making a cogent presentation that I am right and ‘they’ are wrong. And I might be ‘winning’ the argument at the very time that I am becoming angry and attacking.
It is only when I step back that I can recognize why I am getting angry. There is no justified position – we are all sinners. So when I try to present my situation as me being right and others being wrong, I cannot possibly win that argument. The only ‘win’ is to focus on my relationship to Christ and allow them to focus on their own relationship with Him.